[Grace Toll Hall, Scripps College, Claremont]
I had been fretting over the absence of a letter from you this last week – none since to-day week; and have feared that that stomach poisoning had returned. I should have been inclined to send a wire this morning; butPerkinses, the;b3 I have just had a very kind letter from Mr. Perkins – saying that he and Mrs. Perkins intended to come to my lectures – andHale, Emily Jose Milliken (EH's mother)falls ill;b2 mentioning your mother’s recent illness. (I have telephoned to him to assure myself that you had been told). So, naturally, I am glad to have been saved from bothering you at a most unpropitious moment. I am terribly sorry that this should come, when you have not been well yourself, and are overwhelmed with new and difficult duties. I have asked Mr. Perkins to let me know of any important development; but the news of last night was that your mother was distinctly better. So I shall not expect to hear from you until all anxiety is over. Please, take care of yourself.
The week has not been eventful here. IWilberforce, Pamela Margaret (TSE's secretary)engaged to be married;a6 learn from London, first that my secretary is engaged to be married;1 which means, I fear, a change of secretaries before my return, and possibly some temporary disorganisation. ButCriterion, The;a7 as I can’t do anything about it, and possibly she won’t get married till the summer anyway, it is no use worrying about the Criterion. SecondEliot, Vivien (TSE's first wife, née Haigh-Wood)falls out with Lucy Thayer;d2, I hear that Vivienne and her friend Lucy Thayer have parted – myHaigh-Wood, Rose Esther (TSE's mother-in-law, née Robinson)blames VHE for Lucy Thayer's departure;a9 mother-in-law says thatHaigh-Wood, Maurice;a6 V. was unkind to her; myNelson, Mabelsteps in for Lucy Thayer;a2 brother-in-law suggests that there was not enough adaptation on either side. I feared that this might happen. V. has now got Mrs. Nelson back, and has apparently been in bed with a cold. Mrs. N. is, as I think I observed, a much more suitable person, and has some of the qualifications of a mental nurse; but of course she will have to be paid – I must go into this matter – so I think I am justified in asking V. to dismiss one maid and make do with one alone. I enclose Alida’s letter, having shown it to Ada.2 ISheffields, thediscuss marriage to VHE with TSE;a4 discussed my London affairs freely with Ada and Sheff for the first time on Saturday, andSheffield, Ada Eliot (TSE's sister)counsels separation from VHE;b3 Ada took the same view asMiller, Dr Reginaldcounsels separation between the Eliots;a1 Dr. Miller and everyone else who is detached and knows enough to have an opinion. She thought that if Mrs. N. could be established there she might be induced later to become permanent, so that I could live elsewhere by myself. OnThayer, Scofieldhas been asking for TSE;a2 Saturday I have to go down to Providence to see Lucy’s cousin Scofield Thayer in his sanatorium. HisThayer, Florenceasks TSE to visit son in hospital;a1 mother has been ringing me up – sounding slightly hysterical and peremptory – and apparently Scofield has been asking to see me. She will send a car for me. I fear he is in a pretty advanced stage of dementia, and I do not look forward happily to the interview, especially the day after my first lecture.
Perhaps I should not bother you with my troubles now, when you have such anxiety of your own. ISpencer, Theodore;a4 had a pleasant day yesterday; Theodore Spencer, who has been very kind, drovePickmans, thehost TSE at country estate;a2 meAmericaBedford, Massachusetts;c9its Stearns connections;a2 out to Bedford to see some quite charming people named Edward Pickman whoEliot family, theTSE visits quondam ancestral estate;a3 have an estate there (an old Stearns house, by the way, made very luxurious). The country was very lovely; the estate extends for a mile or two along the Concord River, which was in flood, and the day was fine, and I felt benefited by the air. I shall write regularly, but shall not expect to hear much from you yet.
1.Pamela Wilberforce was to leave F&F in 1933 on her marriage to Ludovic Anthony Foster (1908–90).
2.AlidaMonro, Alida (née Klementaski)reports on VHE;a9 Monro to TSE, 13 Oct. 1932: ‘IEliot, Vivien (TSE's first wife, née Haigh-Wood)in Alida Monro's opinion;d1n haveThayer, Lucy Elycompared with Mrs Nelson;a5n not yet seen V. in relation to Miss Thayer. When I went last night Miss Thayer was in bed and V. was on her own, and as I told you, “terribly worried and busy”, about nothing that I could see. She looks fatter in the face and generally better in health. Whether this is actually the case or not I couldn’t say, or why it should be. I don’t know yet in what way Miss Thayer will respond to V.’s condition, but I shall see them over the week end then will tell you what I think.
‘INelson, Mabelwhom Alida compares her to;a3n agree with you that Mrs Nelson was exactly right and treated V. in just the way she should be treated, and she was popular, and I feel her interest was that V. should be distracted and if possible directed on to the right road. With Miss Thayer I feel it is too much the relation of friend and friend, instead of nurse and patient (though this relation was not apparent to the patient). My opinion is that V. has gone back on her tracks, as it were, and is now at about the stage of mentality a child reaches between 7 and 9 years, that her only chance of restoration, and by that I mean her restoration to you as a normal person, would be to hand her over to a psychologist who might be able to re-develop her intelligence until it reached 16 or 18 years of age in mental strength. But frankly, I don’t think this is possible, or perhaps desirable from her point of view, because I fear that if she could retain some grip of life and some realization of what she has done to herself, and to you, she would be so unhappy that she would be unable to bear the burden of life. I think perhaps, and please forgive me for saying this, it might even be better if she could just progress a little further backwards until she became quite irresponsible and completely happy, as I believe people do get when the little thread that binds them to conscious responsibility, breaks … Of course in so far as it hurt you it would be undesirable, but really it would be better for her, and so directly better for you […]
‘Forgive the bluntness of some of my remarks, please – Give me a hint & I’ll not do it again.’
5.MauriceHaigh-Wood, Maurice Haigh-Wood was eight years younger than his sister Vivien. InHaigh-Wood, Emily ('Ahmé') Cleveland (TSE's sister-in-law, née Hoagland) 1930 he married a 25-year-old American dancer, Emily Cleveland Hoagland – known as known as ‘Ahmé’ (she was one of the Hoagland Sisters, who had danced at Monte Carlo) – and they were to have two children.
2.RoseHaigh-Wood, Rose Esther (TSE's mother-in-law, née Robinson) Esther Haigh-Wood (1860–1941), wifeHaigh-Wood, Charles of Charles Haigh-Wood (1854–1927), artist.
5.DrMiller, Dr Reginald Reginald Miller (1879–1948) of 110 Harley Street, London, W.1.; Consulting Physician to St Mary’s Hospital and to Paddington Green Children’s Hospital, London; a general physician with a special interest in children, he was expert in the problems of mental deficiency in children and in rheumatic diseases and heart diseases in childhood (on which he wrote several articles). He was the first editor, with Dr Hugh Thursfield, of the Archives on Disease in Childhood. Brought up in Hampstead, it is probable that he was an early friend of the Haigh-Wood family.
3.AlidaMonro, Alida (née Klementaski) Klementaski (1892–1969) married Harold Monro on 27 Mar. 1920: see Alida Monro in Biographical Register.
2.RobertNelson, Mabel SencourtGeorge, Robert Esmonde Gordon ('Robert Sencourt');b8nSencourt, Robert
2.AdaSheffield, Ada Eliot (TSE's sister) Eliot Sheffield (1869–1943), eldest of the seven Eliot children; author of The Social Case History: Its Construction and Content (1920) and Social Insight in Case Situations (1937): see Biographical Register.
2.TheodoreSpencer, Theodore Spencer (1902–48), writer, poet and critic, taught at Harvard, 1927–49: see Biographical Register.
1.LucyThayer, Lucy Ely Ely Thayer (1887–1952) – a cousin of TSE’s old friend Scofield Thayer, and a friend and confidante of Vivien Eliot – had been a witness at the Eliots’ wedding on 26 June 1915.
11.ScofieldThayer, Scofield Thayer (1890–1982), American poet and publisher; pioneering editor of the Dial. Thayer came from a wealthy New England family, which enabled him to travel and to become a patron of the arts. He was a friend of TSE from Milton Academy, where he was his junior by a year. Like TSE, he went on to Harvard and Oxford, where from 1914 he spent two years studying philosophy at Magdalen College: it was in his rooms there that TSE met Vivien Haigh-Wood in 1915. From 1919 to 1925 he was editor of the Dial, having joined forces with James Sibley Watson (who became president of the magazine) to save it from closure. Re-launched as a monthly in January 1920, the Dial became the most enterprising cultural and arts magazine in the USA. It published TSE’s ‘London Letters’ and The Waste Land as well as important essays by him such as ‘Ulysses, Order and Myth’; Yeats, Pound, Cummings, Joyce and others of the most important Anglophone modernists; and influential European writers including Mann, Hofmannsthal and Valéry. A meeting between Thayer and Lady Rothermere prompted her to finance the Criterion, with Eliot as editor.
7.PamelaWilberforce, Pamela Margaret (TSE's secretary) Margaret Wilberforce (1909–97), scion of the Wilberforce family (granddaughter of Samuel Wilberforce) and graduate of Somerville College, Oxford, was appointed ‘secretary-typist’ to the Chairman’s office on 1 July 1930, at a salary of £2.10.0 a week. She was required to learn typing and shorthand; she asked too for time to improve her German.